The concept of 'Hitting on' Women
This concept has always interested me. Women will complain about being 'hit on' all the time and guys will talk about 'hitting on' girls.
Some men even admit that there just IS no other way to approach women because you're a man so obviously you MUST be interested in her sexually.
This is a limiting belief as well.
What are the true relational dynamics that exist in this frame of reality? Let's take a look..
'Hitting on' implies that the man is interested in some way (usually sexually) and he is going to do something to try to impress her so that she'll be interested in him.
Unfortunately for most men, 'hitting on chicks' nowadays almost never works. Even for a man that has got 'game', it's usually the subculture of women who know they are in the game that will then assess his level of skill and congruency.
But for the majority of men in first world countries..
When a man approaches a woman, she can almost always tell if he is going to 'hit on' her.
In many cases he will even attempt to use 'pick-up lines'.
Women have become so adept at this after being approached by hundreds of different men (who all seem the same) that have 'hit on' them.
They've become very aware and keen on what is going on and can see it from a mile away.
They can tell from the man's nonverbal body language and communication that he is 'interested' in her and that she has the favor in the relationship because he's trying to 'get some'.
Is there any way around it? Actually, yes there is.
Remember in Swingers when 'T' talks about being the 'Rated R guy'?
While so many guys focus on 'the game', they're missing the most important key to success. If they could not play the 'game' and instead keep their own power to themselves, they could approach women invisibly and indifferent to the outcome.
The women would try and figure out where he's coming from and if he's interested or not because his body language is giving nothing away other than that he is comfortable in his own skin and not intimidated by her.
He's not trying to 'get some' or 'hit on her', in fact he is just making a connection and being social.
His body language is what is sending the right message and sometimes when women realize that he really isn't afraid of her or trying to get somewhere, the light will go on and they'll start responding to him (like they're suppposed to).
After all, it's the woman's level of interest anyways that determines if any kind of relationship will go forward.
But where are the men who use this powerful and invisible game? Women are looking for this man because they want to get caught up in the excitement and intrigue of it.
They're very tired of men coming up and hitting on them.
In the relationship where men hit on them, she has the power and favor and that's not what she wants. She wants a man who is equal or greater in relational power than her.
That way she can be attracted to him.
Yes, today's women live in a logical vs. natural instinctive paradox but don't blame them for it. Look at their actions instead of their words.
If you don't understand the root behavioral characteristics they represent, you'll continue to think women are illogical and you'll still probably think the only way is to give away your power and mystery up front so that you have to 'hit on' women.
And what about the guys who uncontrollably ARE interested in her sexually?
Well, that's the problem because they're giving their power away and ruining their (what becomes) 'chance' all along.
It's time that men harness an equal leverage of power that the woman has and gain some self-control because he actually may NOT be interested in her other characteristics.
This will require some de-programming and advanced training to actually change his reality from 'hitting on chicks', playing the 'game' and failing to one of attracting women and getting them consistently interested because he keeps his power for himself.
And do you notice how so many people call it 'getting lucky'. That entire frame is one where women have the power and control.
If you want success with women, YOU have to be the one who has the power and control in the relationship because that is what they are attracted to and words can't do it justice.
Know the truth and live it, don't get caught up in the socially contrived 'game'. Be the Rated 'R' guy who women can't figure out where you're coming from and get THEM interested in you.
-Rion Williams
Women Can Sense Fear and Trepidation in Men
If women can tell when a man is nervous and scared from a mile away, why would that man keep focusing on the wrong solution?
He's still more interested in pick-up lines when he should be finding a way to effectively deal with the root of the #1 issue in his life.
It takes a very self-aware man to realize that there is an issue, and to work on the part that will actually lead to behavioral changes.
If he could find a way NOT to be scared and intimidated, then he'd start getting somewhere with women and wouldn't have to focus on pick-up lines.
It's like trying to fix your computer monitor that's right in front of you but it's really the problem that's deep within the hardware or software of the computer itself.
Heck, it's even like getting mad at your computer monitor right in front of you but the actual truth is, it's not the monitor at all..you just don't see the computer hidden under the desk or put the blame on it.
You may even be fooled like I was for so long even sometimes wanting to do damage to the computer monitor (those days are gone) when it wasn't the actual problem.
Using pick-up lines when a man is still communicating that he is uncomfortable and intimidated by a woman is like trying to fix the brightness setting on the monitor when there is obviously a much deeper issue.
What about areas that address the issue? Are they effective?
Many men have even tried hypnosis, NLP and meditation but it hasn't given them the breakthrough they were looking for when it comes to being fearless and confident around beautiful women.
Now they're at least working on the inside of the computer to fix the problem but you can improve the computer all you want and without a network connection, you're just going to connect as strong with another computer.
There are a lot of surface solutions out there that will make it look like men are gaining progress but they're really just acting and when they go home after a seminar or in-field work they'll feel empty again.
Great men have fallen prey to nervousness, frustration and ineffectiveness when it comes to being truly comfortable in their own skin around that which they desire the most and most areas they seek to help improve aren't that much of a breakthrough.
In order to resolve these deep-rooted inner issues of fear, incongruity and nervousness in behaviour around women (which is basically preventing everything from happening), we have to take an objective look at what's really going on.
Is it really a fear issue? Fight or flight?
Come on..we're talking about women. Why on earth would a man be 'afraid' of a woman. And to those women reading this thinking they'd 'better' be afraid, think about what you're representing right there and why you might be scaring off men.
Biologically man is NOT afraid of women. He is the leader, the provider and protector while the female is the nurturer. If man was afraid of woman there wouldn't be much procreation going on (oh wait..we have 40 year old virgins now).
So if it's not the woman 'biologically' herself and he IS a man, maybe it's something that she represents that is intimidating him. Some other characteristics is getting in the way and throwing things off.
Maybe it's not just him, maybe the problem is also her. Maybe it's greater than either of them but they don't know it yet.
Still..it's up to the man to 'know' because women expect you too.
Maybe it's her details such as how she acts, thinks and dresses that has a man instantly nervous the second he sees her or thinks about approaching.
At this point, I teach that inner game is not enough. A man can 'improve' himself unlimited in many areas but when it comes to success with women it's the relational dynamics involved which is outside of him that he is ignorant to.
That's why millions of men don't have power and strength around women. They do not have cognition itself that the problem lies outside of them and not inside of them.
Once they can 'see' the relational reality, only then will they be uninhibited, powerful and free in relationship to the most beautiful women in the world.
All verbal parlance will stem off of that complete physiological change which is not an act; it's a reality.
Either men are now ignorant (as they are conditioned), cognitive, are achieving cognition (my students), or ignorant yet effective (outcasts, bad boys and jerks).
A man can keep improving himself with meditation, hypnosis, NLP, body language exercises and even intriguing habits or experiences, but if he is ignorant to the powers outside of him which are the root of the problem, he will still be massively limiting his power in relation to all other power and women.
-Rion Williams
The Purest Elements Create the Strongest Synergy
All producers, chefs, architects, construction managers and graphic designers know how to synergize the elements involved to achieve their desired effect.
The top people in fields such as those know the importance of having quality elements (or 'ingredients').
Emeril only uses the highest quality ingredients and utensils when he is cooking. He will also synergize those ingredients together with different proportions for a 'bam' result.
If you want the best meal, find someone who knows how to synergize the highest quality ingredients together (in any recipe) for the best result.
If you want the worst result, have someone without a recipe who doesn't respect or know how to synergize the elements.
Worse yet, use poor relational elements. Instead of new auto repair parts, just replace them with old, rusted broken ones. Instead of a great meal, use rotten ingredients in the wrong proportions and don't cook them well enough. What happens?
The result of the elements combined is dramatically worse. They've compounded to make something terrible. When you use elements that are low in independent quality across the board, it doesn't matter how you synergize them.
If you use rusty nails, warped 2X4's, soggy sheetrock and build something on top of sand you're going to have a massive failure on your hands.
So if you maybe knew all of this, I just wanted to bring it up because cognition is the most important thing.
When you're aware of the relational elements involved in any applied field and master how to synergize them, you'll be one of the best in the world at what you do.
And if you make sure to only use the strongest, purest, highest quality ingredients, they're going to combine together (under your power) to make a compounded and fantastic result.
So when it comes to success with women and dating, why would you want to use impure relational elements?
You probably wouldn't want to but by default you are.
How is this?
Well, the seduction community is using impure relational elements. They are basing everything off of what I call a woman's social character and social environments.
That is why becoming a successful PUA is such a hard-working challenge; the whole 'game' is unnatural and operating with a woman's social (Americanized) character is unnatural.
Millions of men are ineffective with women because the power dynamics have changed and they are not cognitive of the relational dynamics involved within themselves, within women and within society.
With Alpha Relational Dynamics, I teach men how to use pure relational elements to properly align their behavior and physiology to a more empowered self; one that understands his relationship to and awareness of power itself.
I teach men the three root behavioral characteristics (and his relationship to them) within himself, women and his relationship to the social matrix.
I also use visual examples of 'alpha' role models to ground men in their relationship to. Once a man can know his relationship to the most powerful Independent or Social Status woman on earth, then he will 'BE' the man of power in relation to her.
So, just as a powerful producer, architect, designer or manager would, we're finally going to align ourselves to a powerful effect instead of being ignorant to the very powers that have been repressing us.
Instead of being ignorant to the relational elements or using impure relational elements, we're going to use clearly defined alpha elements that define the root of all behavior and we're going to leverage and harness power outside of ourselves.
Inner game is not enough with the best tools if you're still ignorant to the great relational reality that exists but is hidden.
All people of great power and effect leverage power and have control over relational elements. Don't you want that for the first time with women?
Because once you can see power within her and already know your true relationship to it, you won't be intimidated anymore; you'll be able to move beyond the 'dissing phase and start the real game where it's more natural and responsive.
-Rion Williams
